8 Ways to Support a Loved One Struggling With Addiction
Seeing someone you care about struggling with addiction can be incredibly painful and confusing. You may feel helpless, frustrated, or unsure of what to do next. The good news is, there are ways to help—and to help yourself in the process.
Here are some practical tips to guide you as you support someone in their recovery journey.
- Educate yourself about addiction.
Understanding addiction is the first step. Addiction is a complex condition that affects the brain and behavior. It’s not a matter of willpower or character but rather a health issue that requires support and often professional treatment. Read up on substance use disorders, learn about common symptoms, and explore treatment options. The more you understand, the better equipped you’ll be to respond with empathy and insight.
- Practice compassionate communication.
It’s natural to feel angry, hurt, or scared when a loved one is struggling with addiction. But try to approach conversations with kindness and concern, rather than blame or judgment. Use “I” statements instead of “you” accusations. For example, say “I’m really worried about you” or “I want to help you” instead of “you’ve got a problem.” This helps keeps the door open for honest dialogue.
- Set boundaries—and stick to them.
Supporting someone doesn’t mean enabling harmful behavior. Setting healthy boundaries is essential. This might mean not giving money, refusing to lie or cover for them, or choosing not to be around them when they’re under the influence. Boundaries aren’t about punishment—they’re about protecting your wellbeing and encouraging accountability.
- Avoid power struggles and ultimatums.
It can be tempting to try to “snap” someone out of their addiction with ultimatums like “If you don’t stop, I’m done with you.” While setting boundaries is healthy, ultimatums often create defensiveness and shame, which can push your loved one further away.
- Encourage professional help (but don’t force it).
Treatment works, but it often takes time for someone to accept they need help. Encourage them to speak to a doctor, therapist, or addiction specialist. Offer to help research programs like those at GRAND Mental Health, attend an appointment with them, or simply be there to listen. But remember, you can’t force someone to change—you can only encourage them to take that step when they’re ready.
- Take care of yourself.
This is one of the most important tips: look after your own mental and emotional health. Supporting someone through addiction can be draining. Make time for rest, hobbies, and relationships that nurture you. Consider speaking with a therapist or counselor yourself. GRAND, for example, provides services supporting the family members of those struggling with addiction. It’s not only okay to seek support; it’s vital. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
- Connect with support groups.
You are not alone. There are many support groups for friends and family of those dealing with addiction, such as those at GRAND Mental Health, and also Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, or SMART Recovery Family & Friends. These communities offer shared experiences, emotional support, and practical advice that can make a big difference in how you cope and care.
- Be patient; recovery is a journey.
Recovery isn’t linear. There may be relapses or setbacks along the way. Try to maintain hope and patience. Celebrate small victories and remind your loved one that you believe in their ability to heal—even when things are tough.
Supporting someone through addiction is a deeply personal and often painful journey, but your presence and compassion can be powerful. Remember: you don’t have to have all the answers. Your role isn’t to fix your loved one—it’s to walk alongside them with empathy and strength, while also honoring your own limits and needs.
You can find more helpful resources at the SAMHSA website (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). You can also find substance use and addiction treatment services for both youth and adults at GRAND Mental Health. We offer a full array of addiction treatment services from stabilization and detox to residential treatment, outpatient services, family support services, and more. Contact us at grandmh.com or call (844) 458-2100 (or the 24/7 Crisis Line at (800) 722-3611).